Saturday, April 11, 2009

Suspecting Your Spouse is Cheating

By Hessar Narlartino

Suspecting that your spouse is having an affair or cheating on you can be one of the most devastating events that is happening in your life. The most recent, reliable statistics have shown that upwards of 22% of men and 12% of women cheat on their partners. This is not good news and no wonder there is such a high divorce rate.

We are going to discuss how to tell if your partner is cheating on you and what you can do when you find out. This is a very hard time in anyone's life when they suspect that they are being cheated on. There are several questions that you need to ask yourself when posed with this scenerio (your partner cheating on you).

When someone first starts to cheat on their spouse or significant other (this is for both men and women cheaters) they are extremely cautious at first. They watch every move they make in hopes that they do not get caught. As time moves on they become more comfortable with what they are doing and start to be careless in their cheating. They have been getting by with it for awhile now so they start to slip up so to speak.

If you smell a rat, then chances are there is probably a rat somewhere. Have you ever heard that expression? It holds true when you suspect that your partner is cheating on you. It does happen, so get used to that. Hopefully you do not fall victim to your partner's cheating habits. If you partner is starting to become very private with his or her phone for example, constantly text messaging peoople you do not know about, or otherwise very private with their lives and what is going on, then you may have a serious problem on your hands, go forward with extreme caution. Text messaging has become very popular in today's culture as an easy way to get the word out while being discreet. It is every cheaters dream tool.

Snooping will yield you the most results than any other activity you do in relation to this problem. If you find an odd address or phone number, maybe even a name, then look it up. Do some research on the name, phone number or person that you are questioning. Start doing some research. Look at all his bank statements, credit card statements and look for strange items on there. If you see transactions that just do not look right, then you have a valid reason to be concerned.

If your partner is being distant, sneeky or you just have a general bad feeling about the whole thing, then you have a legitimate reason for concern. Go with your gut instinct and get to the bottom of it. If you find a number or name in his briefcase, shirt or pants pocket, then you may have a problem. Go to your favorite number and people search engine and get to the bottom of it. There is nothing like piece of mind in a relationship.

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